“If you marry a creative person know that some days you’ll come home to a spotless house and some days dinner will be forgotten, the kids will be in pjs and it will look like you were robbed. Find a way to appreciate both because the second will happen much more often than the first.”
Several times recently when waking up I had been dreaming of interior design. Being pulled unwillingly from my sleep way too early this morning, I realized that in my dreams I was doing furniture layout and wall decoration for a home that was not mine. Do I not fill my days sufficiently enough with design, with creativity, through photography and fabric and thread? Why the need to create interior spaces while dreaming? The family that I was decorating for, or more specifically the father of the family, was saying it did not feel like home and I was trying to decorate it into being a home.
“Home is the nicest word there is.”
~Laura Ingalls Wilder
All during my childhood we moved frequently and somehow that installed a love in me of moving to new places. There was always the adventure of discovering a new world, new friends and a chance to start over, to re-invent yourself. In adulthood I have stayed put but still love imagining the possibilities. Even when I vacation somewhere, the beach, the mountains, it doesn’t matter where, I like to get real estate magazines and pour over the listings, conjuring up a new future. Recently I have looked at places at the beach on two different coasts, both by driving through areas not that far from home as well as viewing online real estate listings on the opposite coast.
“Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.”
What makes a place a home? Design is certainly part of it as it as it should add comfort and should make the space practical and attractive in everyday living. The familiarity of objects that you have gathered and treasured, whether practical or ornamental, also greatly enhance the sense of home. There is also a need to feel secure and that comes both from the neighborhood, the construction, and from the time it takes to make a new place feel familiar. Most importantly though are the humans and the pets who you love and who love you.
“A house is made of walls and beams; a home is built with love and dreams.”
~Dr. William A. Ward